I am a cis-gender male. Ultimately, that’s not really
important – but I think it’s worth saying. Childhood sexual abuse and violence
can happen to any child, regardless of their gender. Both women and men can be
raped or sexually assaulted by people of either gender.
Society perpetuates myths about men being “un-rapable,” or
that a male child that’s sexually abused will just grow up and be able to brush
it under the carpet. It is something society cannot quite yet grasp. But the
truth is, it can happen to anyone; woman, man, straight, gay, bi, transgender…
Anyone can be a victim as a child or as an adult, or both.
When I was pointed to SV2 for help, they did not bat an eye
at the fact I am a cis-gender male. They treated me the same as they would
anyone seeking to use the service. They advised me, counselled me – helped me,
as they would anyone else.
Talking with one of the advisors helped me to do something I
had never considered: reporting what had happened. SV2 have been with me every
step of the way, from my initial contact with the Police, to my statement, the
evidence gathering, and what happens when the case is sent to the CPS.
They have been honest with me, tempered my expectations and
guided me to getting the therapeutic help I need at the moment whilst all this
If I had decided not to report, they would have still helped
me. They understand that sometimes all you need is to be heard.